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Your weekly dose of motivation is BACK and today we are talking setbacks and comebacks. This is NOT easy to talk about because who really wants to talk about failure?! BUT, don’t you think we should every now and then? I definitely do because A) it normalizes it! Everyone fails sometime we just don’t always see it flaunted across social media. Talking about it makes it a little bit more normal and okay in today’s society. And B) It makes success THAT much sweeter. Sometimes you have to talk about where you’ve been to really appreciate where you are.
First and foremost, setbacks come in all shapes and sizes. What may seem like a setback to you may be just another day for someone else. Whether you are listening to a friend, your boyfriend, your co-worker or a stranger, you have to be sensitive to how that individual defines a ‘setback’ because at the end of the day it’s more mental than anything else. For me, it totally depends on my mood! Some days I define something as little as getting a cryptic e-mail or negative feedback on a project as a setback. On other days, so much goes wrong that setbacks can only be defined as catastrophic fires!
Regardless of what the ‘setback’ is, it is essential that it motivates your comeback. Comebacks can be acing a presentation, getting a promotion or none of the above! My favorite comebacks are ones that make me feel more confident and more positive about my everyday. It doesn’t mean I’ve achieved something major, it just makes me feel like ‘I love this, and I’ve got this!’
Overall, we need a balance of setbacks and comebacks in our lives. Setbacks are how we learn what works and what doesn’t, what we love and what we don’t, and who we need and who we don’t. Comebacks help us progress, they give us a path forward and are a helluva great way to celebrate all of your hard work.
Lately, I’ve been feeling like the setbacks are outweighing the comebacks and it is extremely exhausting. I’m constantly saying to myself, ‘I just need a win, just a little win’ to get me through the next week/month/quarter. That said, it’s been REALLY hard to stay positive and continue to look on the bright side, but I’ve been learning a ton. I’ve learned how to do my job better. I’ve learned what my limits are. I’ve learned how to manage my time better. The list can go on and on. With so many setbacks, it is easy to feel uncertain about things, but I’m very certain that my next comeback will be AMAZING.
Now I want to hear from YOU! How do you balance your setbacks and comebacks? What are your tips to make setbacks small and comebacks BIG?
It is unfortunately one of them things but you have to pick yourself back up and start again.
Setbacks can if we look art them in the right way help set us on a better path. There is always a lesson to learn with them.
I totally agree!
I’m not sure I have the best advice to give because I kind of let setbacks fly over without much thought. I learn from my setbacks so my comebacks will be bigger and better than setbacks are. I don’t let much hold me back from anything.
YOU GO GIRL! I need to think more like you.
I often struggle with balance between setbacks and comebacks but I’m trying to practice more gratitude. Counting my blessings makes the setbacks seem less bad.
That is so important! Thank you for the little reminder.
It takes some training, but looking at those setback as valuable can happen. I don’t hit my goals every month, but I use those as motivators for the next month.
I hear you! Sometimes the failures are the best motivators.
Setbacks really stress me out, but I try to remember God wouldn’t give me anything I can’t handle, so I pick myself up and pray for better. I always try to see the positive in everything, so that helps.
That’s right!! Being positive makes all of the difference.
Sometimes we go through so many setbacks that we forget the exhilaration of the comeback! The comebacks are so much sweeter when we can see every setback that got us to the point of the comeback. Setbacks don’t feel good, but their there to teach us and place us on the path to that comeback. I can’t wait until you experience yours! I’m excited for your journey.
Thank you so much! I’m excited for that comeback as well.
I really loved reading this post and your outfit is adorable! I totally get how you feel about having more setbacks than comebacks. It can really be exhausting but it really does help us learn to be better.
Glad we’re all in the same boat. 🙂
So brave of you to talk about this. I have my own set of setbacks and comebacks and i see myself moving forward as i failed one task because i look forward to the promise of a new one. I just move on and i use the learnings of before to help me for my now and future.
Thank you! It’s not always easy to talk about the setbacks, but always worth it.
For every setback there is a comeback that is the law of the world. When one door closes a window of opportunity opens for those not afraid to take the next step and move forward.
I guess I do think bad things happen, which I suppose I believe can be a setback. But it all comes down to the comebacks which can replace any setback. Because any setback is an opportunity from growth and the ability to make a comeback.
i agree. Your setbacks do inspire your comebacks, and you always want to come back stronger than before.
If you read my story, you will agree that your post is something I need! Thank you for this.
It’s all about perseverance and staying true to yourself. Keep going and you will be just fine!
I love what you said about it spending on our mood! So true! It totally affects the way we view setbacks or successes.
We all have setbacks. I love your positivity in this post!
There is not such thing as failure just learning. If you feel like you are failing change your perspective