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Do you ever look at your friends and family and wonder how THE HELL you got so lucky?! Over the past few weeks, this has been a DAILY thought of mine. After losing my grandfather a little over a week a go, I was absolutely blown away by how many texts, calls, flowers, edible arrangements and visits I received.
Sometimes, it takes sad moments like these or moments of weakness to realize just how lucky you are to have a strong support system. It also takes moments like these to self-reflect and think about how you can improve. Nobody is perfect (I’m DEFINITELY not). We all miss birthdays here and there or think twice about driving long distance to be there for someone. BUT, think back to the last time you really needed your support system. Whether you were grieving a loss or planning a wedding, sometimes you just need your friends and family around you for support.
The outpouring of love that I’ve received over the past few weeks got me thinking about how I need to become a person that I’d personally want in my life. This means different things to different people, but for me, it means that I need to be a little bit more active and way less selfish. Too often I use work as an excuse as to why I can’t meet up for dinner or my busy schedule as a crutch when I forget to text someone back. And if I’ve learned anything over the past few weeks, I learned that this mentality is 100% bullshit.
Some of the ‘busiest’ most ‘successful’ people I know showed up to be by my side during this difficult time. They didn’t have the time, but they made time because they care about be and our friendship. Below are a few things that I’m dedicating myself to over the next few months to become a type of person that I’d want in my life:
1| Make Time. This is my #1 because I know it is going to be the hardest for me. I’m definitely a busy bee, but it is truly all relative. I look at the moms or executives in my office, and realize that I’m really not THAT busy. While I know that it is a busy time at the office right now, I want to go out of my way to see my friends or have a date night with Tom, because sometimes those little moments add up to really big moments that mean A LOT.
2| Ask Follow-Ups. When you don’t live in the same city as your best friends or family sometimes you only get the sparknotes over text or even in person. Think about it– if you only see each other once every few months, you’re not going to bring up the heavy stuff. Sometimes, you need to dig a little to make sure that you are in the loop and can be there.
3| Go The Extra Mile. Have you ever received flowers out of the blue?! It’s amazing, right?! I want to be that friend that goes the extra mile. Not just in sending flowers, but calling instead of texting or showing up when they think you live too far way. If I’ve learned anything from the past few weeks, I learned that just a liiittttlllee extra effort can go a LONG freaking way.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not THAT shitty of a friend. I am constantly going out of my way to check-in on my friends and making plans to see them, but I can always be doing more because ‘more’ is what I would expect of this amazing, incredible, compassionate, and strong group of friends and family that I have around me.
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